Facets of a Diamond - Blog

When I ask for an example of a good marriage, I’ve yet to have someone propose his or her parents’. (In fact, few can give any good example!

Apart from the obvious problem of the lack of a positive marriage model – or rather, the presence of the very opposite – to emulate, there is another problem.

For us to have what I call Aspiration, to believe that life has a Higher Purpose, that there is an ineffable More that we dedicate our lives to – to a-spire, to breath up, to.

And there can only be Aspiration when we believe that the More is loving, worth aspiring to.

Our parents are the More – our first Gods – and if we believe that they do not love each other, then we never aspire. Never reach for more than the worldly, the obvious; never for the supra-mundane as the mundane.

And further, if the Gods do not love each other, how can they love us their children?

From my reading, it appears that this was the central failing of the ancient Greek religion: the Gods fought with each other, like a bad marriage. And their creatures below lived in tragedy – as do we.

We need to believe in our parents’ mutual love – need to Know it in our hearts. But how when they argue, fight – divorce?

Go beyond the superficial, the physical, the mundane. Go into their hearts. There you find love – and only love. Under the petty stupidities (the misprocessings) is always their love.

They have always loved each other – soul to soul.

See and use their marriage as a Perfect example. And now you have Aspiration.

(1999)